Bullying is becoming more and more present in educational institutions these days, and this means that more and more students face violent situations at school every day. Unfortunately, the phenomenon can happen everywhere, and society becomes a silent witness when nobody stands up for the victim.
Although some people would say that it’s just a phase in a teenager’s life and should be ignored, bullying can have devastating effects on a child’s personality. It could make a person lose his or her self-esteem, feel depressed and even commit suicide.
If you’re being bullied, you should know that you’re not the only one. In actuality, studies show that almost half of us have been bullied at some point. Throughout the world, authorities are making efforts to stop bullying. If you are a victim, don’t be afraid to tell someone, because you are not alone. You can talk to your parents, a teacher, a friend or another person you trust.
On the other hand, you have to find a way to stop bullies from attacking you. There are some helpful tips that will help you stand up for your rights and violence is not among them. Remember that fighting for peace with bombs is like fighting for a clean environment with materials made by polluting industries.
- The most important thing is to understand the bully’s behavior. In general, people who bully others are responding to stressful situations, social exclusion and are bullying victims themselves.
Knowing this, please do not be a victim. If you are being bullied, understand that you are not the problem.
- If you feel confident and safe enough you could speak to the person who is bullying you. Sometimes, bullies see their actions as inoffensive teasers, so it could help if you talked to the person who is bothering you. Tell him/her that you don’t like these jokes and maybe they will understand. You might find it hard to believe, but it worked for others.
3. Silence is not an option. Stressful or difficult situations can cause serious problems, from low social interaction and low productivity to depression.
If someone is bullying you, talk to people who might help you. If it happens at school, the first person you should talk to is a teacher, guardian, other responsible adults and, when you get home, your parents. If you are afraid, speak with someone you trust and who can help you solve the problem.
- Did you know that bullying is a criminal offense? Only you can decide if this is your case, but remember that if somebody physically or sexually attacks you, uses offensive, discriminatory language or shares your private information online, you should report it to the Police.
5. You are not the problem, so don’t think that you did something to cause it. Bullying doesn’t happen because of the victims’ sexuality, gender identity, race, appearance, disability or any other factor. The cause is the others’ attitude towards the victim. If we want to prevent bullying, we can only do it by changing attitudes.
6. Find ways to deal with the stress caused by bullying. The stress can build a completely avoidable chain of negative emotions, so you should find a way to talk to someone about your situation. Also, you have to get involved in activities that increase your self-esteem and allow you to spend relaxing moments that will move your mind away from the stressful situation.
7. Isolation is not the solution! Your colleagues, friends or family can help you get through everything. If you deprive yourself of any support, you won’t resolve the issue. Furthermore, you will keep being a victim, and you might, slowly, lose your self-esteem.
8. Your health is important in any circumstance, so look after it even if you are being bullied
By this, we mean that you have to do what it takes for keeping your mind healthy when it’s assaulted by stress and negative thoughts caused by bullying. Fun activities will help relax and clear your mind.
- Seek positive role models that can inspire you
Stories about celebrities who succeeded in life, despite the fact that they went through hard times and faced difficult situations, can stimulate young people to fight for their rights.
- Last, but not least, find an organization which fights to prevent bullying and turn to them.